Sex is not important in a relationship

Sex is one of the most fascinating and controversial topics with both young and old people alike. By extension Single and married couples too.

The young and single seem to overrate sex. The old seem to underrate it. What we have in between is a bunch of overwhelmed humans who either found it 'sweeter than expected' due to years of their parents trying to underrate the experience in a bid to keep their their young from it.

This leads to immediate exaggeration of the gift of sex by the young ones and irrational expectations from the experience. Eventually, disappointment dawns with time and age, after the initial overwhelming feeling. The young one, who is now older and wiser begins to underrate sex again and unwittingly recreate themselves and their experiences in the new young. The cycle continues.

Sex is not important in a relationship. At least, not as important as young people are made to believe by Hollywood. 

Here are 5 Reasons sex is not important in a relationship.

1. Control

When sex is introduced early in a relationship, it could become a currency and a tool for controlling each other without even knowing it. Most times young girls are unable to clearly evaluate their obviously toxic relationship with a lover because the sex beclouds their judgement.  

2. Shallow relationships

Most relationship lose their depth and become shallow because instead of making memories and building a relationship that can stand the test of time, the couple spend all their time having sex. Some relationships began and ended in rooms. No dates, no hanging out with friends, no conversations that won't lead to a fight that would eventually be settled with sex. 

3. Lack of communication

Sometimes when sex is the focal point of a relationship, communication could lag. A partner who knows he is good in bed could resort to sex rather than actually talk about a problem. Of course, it needs no saying that when there's no communication in a relationship, it's as good as two strangers just sharing a bed.

4. Religion

Depending on what you believe or practice, sex may be reserved strictly for marriage. This means that sex your relationship amounts to sin.

5. Time

Sex introduced in a relationship is liable to complicate things and confuse feelings. For instance, sex in the early stages of a relationship may hinder both partners from actually sorting out and deciding what they feel for each other and what direction they want to take their relationship.

There are so many things that couples in relationships can do to bond, build trust and keep a clear head while maintaining a healthy relationship without sex. After all, Some of the best relationships in our lives involve no sex. E.g Your brother, your mother, father, best friends etc!

Do you think you could be in a relationship without sex? 

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